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In traditional forms of Christianity, courtship follows a betrothal and concludes with the celebration of marriage.
Christian art depicting the betrothal of Joseph the Carpenter and the Virgin Mary

Christian courtship, also known as Biblical courtship, is the traditional Christian practice of individuals in approaching "the prospect of marriage". [1] Preceded by a proposal, courtship traditionally begins after a betrothal and concludes with the celebration of marriage (though in the present-day, courtship may precede the betrothal, which is then followed by the wedding). [2] [3] Christian theologian Scott Croft distinguished courtship from dating, teaching that: [4]

Courtship ordinarily begins when a single man approaches a single woman by going through the woman's father, and then conducts his relationship with the woman under the authority of her father, family, or church, whichever is most appropriate. Courtship always has marriage as its direct goal... Dating, a more modern approach, begins when either the man or the woman initiates a more-than-friends relationship with the other, and then they conduct that relationship outside of any oversight or authority. Dating may or may not have marriage as its goal. [4]

Andre Marie, a brother of the Slaves of the Immaculate Heart of Mary, discusses that courtship allows a couple to become acquainted with one another, and that physical intimacy is saved only for those in wedlock. [5] Christian minister Patricia Bootsma further delineates this distinction, writing that in contrast to the modern conception of dating, in "courtship, time together in groups with family or friends is encouraged, and there is oversight by and accountability to parents or mentors". [6] She further states that with courtship, "commitment happens before intimacy". [6]

Christian courtship remains normative in certain Christian countries such as Guatemala, in which much of the population belongs to the Roman Catholic Church. [7] In the United States, courtship is seen as a response to secular dating culture in which various Christian communities might find themselves, c. 1985 to present. [8] Motivated by concern for the need of Christian values in contrast to secular dating practices, conservative Christians identified what they saw as key Biblical principles for courtship and romance, and began to disseminate them in the 1980s.

The practice of traditional Christian courtship among church members belonging to various Christian denominations experienced a revival in the 1980s. [9] Keynote speaker and author Dr. S.M. Davis developed a unique stand on this philosophy, and his materials have been popular with the homeschool culture since the early 1990s. Proponents of courtship say that it is identified by Biblical principles, rather than particular methods or behavioural practices. These principles have been summarized in Leave Dating Behind: a Road Map to Marriage by Christina Rogers within the acronym CARE:

  • Commitment to marriage
  • Accountability
  • Rejection of the secular dating philosophy
  • Establishing physical boundaries (Song of Songs 2:7) [10]

Characteristics of traditional Christian courtship

  • The guardianship responsibility of fathers over single daughters.
  • The responsibility of parents to prepare their children for marriage in all respects, and for youths to be prepared in terms of talents, education, vocation and finances prior to seeking a courtship relationship.
  • The mentoring role of parents or other suitable "accountability couples" in a given courtship.
  • Supervision of courtships to mitigate temptations or abuse, whether of a sexual, emotional or financial nature.
  • Emphasis of the importance of marriage as an opportunity for Christian service rather than a selfish endeavor.
  • Emphasis of the importance of singleness before marriage as a time for greater Christian service in the community, rather than a time to be employed in selfish pursuits.
  • Emphasis of the importance of counsel and evaluation by family and friends as a relationship progresses. (Song of Songs 1:4) [11]
  • Emphasis of the importance of honesty and getting to know one another as real people in "normal life" during courtship (as contrasted with the dating habit of meeting during special events and entertainment while on one's best behavior.)
  • The maintenance of sexual purity in accordance with the evangelical counsel of chastity.

See also

References

  1. ^ Maxson, J. Robin (2012). Singleness, Marriage, and the Will of God: A Comprehensive Biblical Guide. Harvest House Publishers. p. 326. ISBN  978-0-7369-4549-3. In the courtship paradigm, the prospect of marriage is broached toward the beginning of the process and romance is postponed until the couple is out in the middle of the bridge. One of the major objectives of the betrothal arrangement is to stave off romance as long as possible—until the period just before the wedding or, following the biblical pattern, after it. Proponents of courtship and betrothal are very aware of the twitterpating effects of romance on sound judgment, so they seek a structure that delays that influence on the decision-making process as long as possible.
  2. ^ Pilip T. Weller (1948). Rite of Betrothal. Society of Saint Pius X. p. 2.
  3. ^ "Stages of a Catholic Courtship". Traditional Catholic Femininity. 27 July 2017. Retrieved 15 January 2022.
  4. ^ a b Croft, Scott (14 June 2005). Piper, John (ed.). Sex and the Supremacy of Christ. Crossway. p. 146. ISBN  9781433517907.
  5. ^ Marie, André (23 March 2009). "Courtship: The Chaste Preparation for Holy Matrimony". Slaves of the Immaculate Heart of Mary. Retrieved 15 January 2022.
  6. ^ a b Bootsma, Patricia (9 April 2015). Raising Burning Hearts: Parenting and Mentoring Next Generation Lovers of God. Forerunner Publishing. p. 81. ISBN  9781938060229.
  7. ^ Vaughn, Lisa (1 June 2007). Guatemala. Kuperard. ISBN  978-1-85733-582-8.
  8. ^ "Christian v. secular dating: Is there a difference?". The Philadelphia Tribune. 15 April 2012. Retrieved 2021-12-18.
  9. ^ Wilkinson, Alissa (26 May 2015). "Forget Tinder. Pop culture is side-hugging courtship hello". The Washington Post.
  10. ^ "Song of solomon 23A7 NASB - Bible Gateway". www.biblegateway.com. Retrieved 2016-09-10.
  11. ^ "Song of solomon 13A4 NASB - Bible Gateway". www.biblegateway.com. Retrieved 2016-09-10.

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